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He is entreating her, abasing himself at her feet, but in vain. Giribala's heart seems to swell. She imagines herself as the offended Radha; and feels that she also has in her this woman's power to vindicate her pride. She had heard what a force was woman's beauty in the world, but to-night it became to her palpable. At last the curtain dropped, the light became dim, the audience got ready to leave the theatre, but Giribala sat still like one in a dream. The thought that she would have to go home had vanished from her mind.
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When for the first time she saw her husband among the audience shouting his drunken admiration for a certain actress, she felt an intense disgust, and prayed in her mind that a day might come when she might have an opportunity to spurn him away with her contempt. But the opportunity seemed remoter every day, for Gopinath was hardly ever to be seen at his home now, being carried away, one knew not where, in the centre of a dust-storm of dissipation.
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I better make sure that my husband gets them to school on time when they start K in the fall.
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I suppose I should tell him that the school starts earlier than it really does. I am horrified by the arrest, and disgusted at the meddlesome busybodies that support this system. I day dream about home schooling. I thought perhaps there is some good in public school, and I could mix home schooling with it. There is a new exhibit at the museum, so I could take my boy to that and write a note for the absence.
Teachers do not have the flexibility to accommodate late students. We are on a tight schedule dictated to us by our administrators, dictated to them by the superintendent, dictated to them by the state officials who have not been in a classroom since they were children but who are chasing pennies offered by the federal government.
I am quite honestly not exaggerating about the schedule on the board. Do I personally feel that, in the grand scheme of the world, children being late for school is an offense punishable by law? I sure as hell do. It starts at 8. Sometimes at ! So you have a student in school from 8 to 4. Since they need to leave the house by to get to school on time, that means that they need to be awake by in order to be ready to leave on time. Is it any wonder that they oversleep? Or that morning is always such a battleground because none of the kids want to wake up?
This is a very good point. If issues come up that make you just a few minutes late, fairly often, then you just have to change your target time. There are situations where some leeway should be given, and if those issues are real and visible, the school should not act like a prison camp.
Even if the mom is not holding up her end well, arrest is over the top if it is not a clear case of flouting her responsibility to get her kids to school. If there is a consistent pattern of being a little bit late, even if the issues that create it are quite real, there probably ARE ways to cope with it. I have a great deal of sympathy if the situation is quite difficult, but yes, there are things that can help the situation. If this was a matter of a family being an hour late six times over the course of an entire year because of some erratic problem that would come up even if they started the process two hours early, it would be one thing.
It WAS seven infractions in one year, for multiple children. A friend of mine received a call from our elementary school that his 3 children were tardy and he needed to have an excuse note for them to get to class. He got them to the bus stop on time, but their bus broke down and they had to switch buses and were tardy. He told the administrator to get the note from the bus driver! It is not a crime. Yes, there should be consequences, but do not perpetuate helicopter parenting by making the parent responsible for the late student.
I am outraged that people are outraged by this! Yes, an arrest is over the top and a waste of taxpayer money; however, I am really disappointed in Lenore for publishing this on her blog and just taking what this mother is saying at face value. What happened to teaching kids responsibility regardless of what circumstances we find ourselves in? And while there is nothing wrong with homeschooling, homeschooling is not the answer for not wanting to deal with the consequences of tardiness!
As someone else mentioned, life is run on a schedule — so you can only shield your kids from that for so long. Lenore, please reconsider your position on this. Come on! I agree that the arrest part of the story is outrageous especially if she has children with disabilities that make it hard to be on time every single day.
However, I have to side with the teachers on general tardiness. Something could happen to delay me. I just know, something could happen. Lollipoplover — was it a school bus or a city bus? In my school district, whenever school buses were late, those students were automatically excused, as they should be. Public transportation is fantastic, but it does have its moments. No excuses, now. My daughter takes the school bus and if it is late she and the rest of the kids are automatically excused. She has only been late a handful of times due to doctors appointments.
Her school in fourth grade from does unpack, attenance, lunch count, and morning work. Christi — the time away from school does not affect the teachers at the school — it was an ACE school — students scored the work in their book. My oldest graduated at 16 from there, the school was self-paced.
Some students took longer than others, some flew through the studies. A friend's son graduated at 15, his sisters were mad because they were 17 and still not completed. Plus, if someone doesn't want to do an extra 3 hours of grading, um, isn't that part of being a teacher? Doing whatever work is necessary? Sure, sometimes work sucks, but doesn't everyone's? Part of being a teacher is not facilitating your mid-March get-away just because you scored fantastic tickets at Disney World in the off-season and combined it with cheap airfare from your credit cards and the timeshare owned by your uncle-in-law.
If children are pulled out of school for an illegal absence like that, they should be responsible for making the work up when the return. If I had the flexibly to set my own rules in this area, such missed work would only be counted at partial credit for older students. If, of course, students were traveling while school was in session for a funeral, for extreme illness or for their own medical care, only the most essential of assignments would need to be completed. SKL- They should be fired, for sure. Of course, I do think that having the parents arrested is more of a stretch than necessary.
It would best be handed over to the local child protective authorities. I could not agree more with SKL and Peter. An arrest for this is WAY over the top. Shame on you for perpetrating this warped view that all imperfect parents ought to be snitched on this way. You do NOT define what parenting is, and that the state of VA has chosen to define parenting this way—shame on them. LRH- I would love to hear your developmentally and educationally informed view on what consequences a chronically late 6 year old should face at school.
Also, I especially agree with what SKL said earlier. Where does it stop? My job is my job, period. Go meddle in your own business and leave decent people the hell alone. That you are a teacher in no way makes you more qualified to speak on this matter than I or the other posters here. First of all, LRH — read my post. I did NOT say imperfect parenting should be criminalized. Excuses like that are just that — excuses.
I said the arrest was over the top. But at some point you have to drop the excuses and follow the rules! Everyone can come up with some sort of excuse. And yes, everyone is an imperfect parent. But you have to take responsibility. And if you enroll your child in school, you have to conform to those rules. End of story! The parents are the only people who have control over what the child does at home, and this includes in the morning. If the children are still in the process of learning how to do that independently, it is THE PARENT who is responsible for making sure that they are ready on time — this is the process of teaching the children how to do it themselves.
Going to school on time is an incredibly important life skill — medical appointments, buses, trains, planes, lectures, exams, and most importantly, WORK. Teaching important life skills like this is what parents are FOR. Schools can and generally do give detention for lateness, but because the problem of failing to get ready for school and then to school on time originates AT HOME, it is the adults responsible for the child AT HOME who need to be dealing with the problem.
Pretty much everyone in here, including me, has stated that they feel that the adult being arrested is over the top. This does not, however, mean that the adult does not have responsibility over their child getting to school. They do. Getting to school on time is a pretty basic skill, which children need to master in order to be functional adults who can reliably be at work on time.
What the schools do can hardly be called teaching, especially at that age. Interruptions and lateness are a good thing. Parents are there to parent their children. If the parent decides that being an hour late each day is what is appropriate for their child, to hell with anyone who thinks they know better. At what point are we going to recognize that our schools are not prisions and our children are not born with some kind of original sin which requires that their most creative years be filled with cramming for skills tests?
What this policy is preparing kids for? Tardiness and absence are annoying for teachers, but those educators are not a legal authority over your children or you. If there are penalties, they need to stay within the school walls because that is the only space where the school needs jurisdiction. My son is late for school often: he takes the city bus which is unreliable, and he has to do his own before school prep. Not to mention this allows us to avoid owning a car better exercise for everyone!
If his school enforced this policy I would have to buy a car and drive him, or at least take away all his responsibility by micromanaging his morning routine and escorting him to school each day. The law this woman was charged under is a travesty, but it follows organically from the idea that the government owns your children during school hours. As a teacher, I suggest you slow down and read for comprehension. Lunch detention for a 6 year old who is constantly late? Bad idea… kids really do need that recess time after sitting through 4 hours of school work.
True story. A 3rd grader is habitually late to English first period. I enforce what consequences I can, when I can. One day the girl shows up nearly an hour late, having missed an in-class writing assignment during the first hour. I keep the girl with me to complete the writing assignment. There is criminal and there is this. Arrested for tardiness. And the courts would be backed up for years with awaiting trials.
What a waste of resources. When there are more REAL crimes being committed. Definitely no common sense. Is that criminal…NO it is definitely not. Even teachers in school, how many have full control of what their students say or do in class? Teachers have the authority to discipline within regulations of the school. But they never have full control. Kids will be kids. And not all kids are the same. Just like adults. You have adults that are morning people, and you have adults that are late starters. Should we be arrested for that?
And really, up to 10 min late?! I can understand an hour or so everyday. But 10 min? Think before you judge people. Not some holier than thou mentality. No one is perfect not even the ones that believe they are. I sure as hell will not physically dress someone who knows how to put their clothes on. If the law says otherwise—frankly, it needs to be changed. Christi, in your example. Where the parents and that child warned of will happen should she be continually late? I understand when the child is habitually late, and late half hour to an hour everyday.
In this situation, my common sense would tell me there is not point in disciplining. The ONLY problem with allowing a child like this to come in a little later than that other kids, is that other kids who may not be as good in class to feel they can come in later. That is a different situation, based on one factor…tardiness. Personally, I would sit the parents down of the lesser bright students and tell them the situation. But I would also add, if those kids that do come in min later, do very well and do the work in class, then the other kids should do the same thing.
Think of it as a privilege. As long as kids have a positive upbringing, and thrive because of it, I can look pass the small stuff. Then that parent needs to withdraw the child from school, because it is entirely unreasonable to expect the school to educate the child if your position is that you have no interest in and no responsibility to conform with any of the guidelines that the school puts in place. That, I think, is the heart of the problem.
Pretty hard to imagine eh? No, but there are compulsory attendance laws and those laws contain specifics about the number of absences and the amount of tardiness that the school is allowed to permit. And teachers are the ones who record your compliance with those laws by taking attendance.
Whether you agree with the existence or specifics of those laws, saying that children attending school on time is not a legal matter is simply not accurate. Larry, you are correct that it is not your job to get your kids ready for school and get them there on time, if they are able to get there on their own. David- The parents and I had spoken and the parents had said that, of course, I should enforce whatever consequences came naturally of her behavior. The natural consequence of her being late that day and we are talking generally more than a half hour late more than twice a week was for her to take the assessment, which was time sensitive and had to be completed that day, while other students were at the assembly the assembly was timed that way so as to allow teachers to grade the mandatory assessments.
Had she, for example, missed a spelling test, she would have taken the spelling test during the first few minutes of recess or been asked to stay after school to take it. Most of the time, my first ten minutes at that job were spent yakking with other employees. But if I had clocked in 10 minutes late every single day, pretty soon a manager would have noticed and I would have been spoken to about it. If it had continued, I would have been fired.
I find it incredibly odd to encourage a student to show up five minutes late for school every day.
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If getting to school on time every day were necessary to growing up competent, I would be chronically unemployed and homeless. There are plenty of jobs that do not require the individual to be at a desk ready to do math at 8am or 9am every day. Getting to school on time is a courtesy to the teacher and classmates. Yes, I support the school if they administer age-appropriate discipline for tardiness that the child is capable of avoiding. Surely this is distracting to the teachers and the other children. Surely it disrupts the school day more than a tardy.
Nobody is saying she should go to jail or pay a fine because her discipline methods obviously come up short. I wonder if they should arrest the mom whose kid screeches at drop-off every morning? So why do educators think that when it comes to tardiness, they get to tell me how I should handle things in my own home? Because for every parent to always get their kids to school on time, some would have to physically dress them from the skin out, force-feed them breakfast or let them starve , and drag them to school against all protests.
You say that my kid needs to be on time to succeed in life; I say, she needs to be able to get her own self ready in the morning before she can be on time! Your way is legal, mine is apparently illegal. I got a lot of detentions for failing to turn in my absence cards, because I had difficulties with organization and never seemed to have the cards at home for my mom to sign.
Since we had a school bus system, if I was tardy, it was because I had missed the bus and she drove me to school. Eventually she gave up and gave me permission to forge her signature. My whole family was disorganized. Since then, tardiness and absence has been made a much bigger deal. Very odd. So 10 minutes tardy meant you missed very little.
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Nowadays Ms. Christi says there is no space in the school day at all, which may vary by district of course. Back in the day, it was certainly an annoyance, since you had to be sure you already had your lesson plans set up already for the days in question and could duplicate the worksheets home the week ahead. In my current position, my hours start at am.
My boss is a-okay with this because 1 I get my work done accurately and on time, and 2 I stay late if necessary. Now, am I always late? No… especially if I have an important meeting at 8am or something. I do what needs to be done. Prior to my current position, I was a teacher. SKL nailed it, totally, especially the last 2 paragraphs. Frankly, if the law is this way, it needs to be changed. I, personally have come across at least a dozen personal friends who have sent their kids to school, had issues, I mention homeschooling, they talk to me and find out more about it, and then they decided to make the plunge and do it.
And they were SO much happier! So for us that do homeschool, we feel it is such a blessing we just want to share it with others. We should definitely be trying to make the schools better, as well. But arresting a mother for tardy children is NOT making the schools better. Getting rid of policies on testing and micromanagement of the day WILL. Like it was said earlier, a good teacher knows how to manage these things with little to no disturbance to the school day.
If you are right in the middle of something, the child can sit quietly while the rest of the class continues on until you a reach a point the child can jump in. Then at recess you call the kid up and tell them what they missed and assign it for homework. No big deal. No matter how negative a situation is, there are no or few options for changing the situation. Which is why I should think administrators might try to be a little flexible.
I sing in a church choir. I can sight read, and I know most of the music. I want to sing, so I get my lazy self out of bed. If you want free education, you need to either provide it yourself via homeschooling, or play by the rules of your school system. If you think those rules are so stupid that you cannot abide them, you have the choice of working to get those rules changed, switching to private school or homeschooling, or sucking it up. They arrive at for an 8am class. And they miss the pop quiz that started at 8 sharp. Or they miss the explanation of that really tricky problem from the day before.
Or they miss the announcement that there is no class next week. Being on time for stuff is a life skill. Learn it. As I posted during our discussion of missing school, being on time is perhaps the most important skill that a person can have in life. Everything else flows out of showing up and being on time or early. I also believe that being late is the ultimate demonstration of disrespect for your teacher, classmates, etc. That all having been said, arresting the mother at a cost to the criminal justice system, etc.
I actually think the meeting with the truancy officer was reasonable. I am sure the other 5 times the teacher or principal spoke to the parents also were reasonable. The arrest does little though to help solve the problem. Arresting someone though is a whole other ball game. Not to mention, I am sure that if the mother was on probation for a low level drug offense or unpaid parking tickets or child support, etc. If a child or children are not managing to get themselves up, ready, and to their transport to school on time, then the parent has NOT successfully taught them how to get to school on time.
Your kid might be able to dress themselves, get and eat breakfast by themselves, brush their teeth by themselves, pack their bag by themselves, and go out to the bus stop and wait by themselves. That is good. The child is not literate. The basic building blocks are there, but the child needs more learning before the they can come together as a useful whole.
And, yes, there are very good reasons for the laws that exist to ensure that your children do go to school, daily, and on time. They are there to ensure that the children get enough education to get by in the world, be able to fill at least menial jobs, and, ideally, are able to pursue tertiary education later in life should they so choose.
Those laws are there to protect children from parents who would prefer that their child is not educated enough to be independent, or, those parents who place little or no value on education and view it as unnecessary — which, in the first world where everybody needs a certain level of education to be able to get by, certainly is abuse, right up there with beating and starving. Denying a child — ANY child — basic secondary education is just wrong, and the law reflects this, both in my country and in yours.
Christi, I loved the thing about the vacation at Disney. I love it because of double standards. Where my daughter started school, they wanted no one to take any vacation during school time. There are great holiday fares to Hawaii in January. But, when they had a school fund raiser auction, 3 families got the trip to Hawaii. And they went in October. Seems to me that if the condo was going to be donated that they should have made sure it coincided with the school schedule. The mom was alone at the store and had to either get a hold of some one else, who was not at their own appointment or such, or had to take the bus, which was a 2 hour trip.
I hope that compassion rules for this mother. Unless you have a special needs kid with the exact same issues, you have no clue what life is like. I will speak to 4th grade, in this case, because I am very familiar with it. Let me preface this by saying that I am thinking of my own experience in an affluent district where we do not use text books. Reading- about 30 minutes of preparation for one student Determine which book the child is reading and if they are likely to finish it before the week is out.
If they are likely to finish it before the end of this week and they will be gone next week , what cumulative assessment is being used for this time in the reading workshop? For each of those 5 instances, the student is going to need to fill out a graphic organizer. Collect those 5 graphic organizers, get them photocopied if necessary, sit down with the student and explain how to fill out the graphic organizers.
Perhaps do one together if necessary. If they are not likely to finish it before the end of the week, there may be slightly less time required. Writing- About 30 to 45 minutes for one student Where in the writing process is this student? If they are still collecting seed ideas, you need to explain how students will be spending the next week using a seed idea to, for example, draft a personal narrative about a time when they were frightened about something.
Make sure that students understand what makes a personal narrative different from a fully fleshed out story, etc. Make sure you have a graphic organizer ready and photocopied to begin expanding the seed idea into paragraph form. Make sure that the rubric you will be using to edit and revise the rough draft has already been made likely you will have to sit down and create that rubric as each rubric is supposed to be created for the individual assignment. Sit down with the student and make sure that he or she knows which seed idea they are going to choose.
Go over, with the student, what each part of the rubric means and how to do a self check and self evaluation at the end of the draft— since this child will not be in class to peer revise and peer edit, they will be doing the work on their own. Also try and instill in the student that THEY should be writing this, and not their parent.
Sit down with the student and ensure that they understand the topic. Provide remedial sheets for a student you know is struggling. Provide advanced sheets for a student who is good at math. Make photocopies, sit with student, explain what to do, assign any reading. Homework- 10 to 15 minutes Look at the week ahead and put together a homework sheet in advance, guessing what you will actually cover during the current AND upcoming week.
Gather photocopies, materials, texts, etc. Explain any longer term projects to the student. Meet with the students 1 on 1 to go over corrections to the written piece before the student begins writing a final copy. If possible, arrange time for the student to pair-share with at least one other student before getting to work on this. The rest is rather self explanatory. You will be grading things individually that you would have done in a batch for the other students, or which you might have only gone over as a group.
There may also be a need for more backtracking to be done if any of the lessons went in a different direction during instruction time than you had initially planned or if it is clear that the child did not understand any key parts of what was taught in class. My other four kids, all in elementary school as well, have gone to school.
When I got home, there was my surly, tantrumming, lb year-old in bed, refusing to go to school. He was late already, and I did what I needed to do to talk him through it without threats. For whatever reason, this set him off. When my son was in kindergarten, the school year began a month after I had moved into a separate home from his dad. Our solution the kids came up with it was to have the kids sleep in the clothes they were going to wear to school the next day. They still do it, just because it became a habit, but are starting to transition to pajamas. We were still late some days.
And you know what I said? We do not serve kindergarten. Can you find a way to have rest, fun, play, freedom and choice while supporting participation, learning, respect, consideration, and community? Your being late, or being absent from this sports practice or game will have an effect on others. Choose strategies that take everyone into account, but definitely, definitely honour your own needs as well.
Christi, your example of the little girl who missed the assembly is a good one. Mom complained but you held your ground. Child and mom learned.
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Sounds like successful discipline to me. You felt bad about it. Try having to fire someone. Is it so hard for educators to understand that getting started in the morning is a learning curve? Long story short, the girl got to go to the assembly the next day with the Kindergarteners. Which was during 1st period. And, surprisingly, the little girl was on time that day. Like I said before, I support age-appropriate discipline for school violations within the school.
There will always be some parents who will stick up for their kids and be unfair to the teacher. Best is not to dwell on it. I agree with that totally, and I plan to do it that way myself. So Christi , where it regards that sort of thing, I am on your side. Yes, it is tough, yes it involves yelling and feeling like we are mean parents. But we are the parents! My daughter was famous for going to school with uncombed hair because if she takes too long, that is something that is skippable.
When she would come home sad that someone made fun of her, I sympathized and worked with her to figure out a way for her to get ready faster dress the night before and sleep in her very stylish outfits. I organize everything for my son before I wake him up because I know that he is cognitively not able to do that at 7am. I feel showing up on time for school is much less stressful for the kids than being the tardy one that everyone looks at.
Also, having a kid that shows up everyday on time also helps when you have to have meetings with the teachers about focus, homework, and behavioral issues. Or when we would go to Mexico every January for 2 weeks we live in MN!!! Oh, and as a ex-homeschooler, I miss the quiet cuddly mornings like a crack addict. Arresting the mother was ridiculous. I did meet a mom one time who had to pay a fine for her child being absent or late too often.
Christi, sadly, it seems as if you are becoming part of the problem. You seem to have bought into what the bureaucracy is feeding you, hook, line and sinker. You seem to see school as the be-all, end-all, most important thing ever in the life of a child. There is far more to life than a classroom. Yes, you are paid to do a job. Yes, it would be far easier if everything and everyone were completely uniform, with no differences or special needs or bad days. Sadly, I have found that the teachers who think like you may look good to the administration, but I have not found them the most effective teachers.
Far and away, the best teachers have been the flexible ones who took things in stride, kept problems in perspective, and were doing their best to engage the children in a lifelong love of learning. But this often requires creatively skirting the boundaries that administrations put into place. I understand why Lenore posted this. I see this whole thing as just another way that parental rights — including our rights to make decisions based on our family situations and needs — are being diminished. The government needs to remember that they do not own our children.
Neither do we — but we are the ones who are raising them, and we still have rights. It infuriates me to see things that are small turned into crimes. Zero tolerance? No, just zero thought. My own experience with tardy children: My kids walked or biked to school from the time they were small. They were late occasionally, yes, but it was never a criminal matter.
She got the detention for that, not him. Was it fair? Maybe not, but then she could have taken the school bus instead and not been late, which was her choice. But at least at that time, and in that place, it was not considered a criminal matter. They went to their classroom, where the teacher sent them to the office.
They wait in the office for the secretary. Secretary calls home, no answer. Sometimes being late is just being late, especially for little kids. I live in Loudoun County, VA and see plenty of kids arriving tardy to school on multiple occasions.